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Thursday, March 27, 2008

Kumekucha Social Check: Our Young Men

Why you are extremely corrupt if you buy into Safaricom shares

The other day I found myself 'inadvertently' eavesdropping on the conversation of some two young men. They were talking about Aids, sex and marriage.

One of them was saying that men (quite an outlandish generalization!) cannot do without sex. He went on to say that as long as a man is 'functioning' then sex is the sure release of his building pressure.

Then the insalubrious 'party pooper' was brought into the picture: Aids. They fear Aids (who doesn’t?). Talking of Aids as if talking of the weather is sheer madness (what I learnt from what they were saying). They said that with Aids lurking somewhere in the shadows of 'after sex' then a tricky situation had plunged headlong onto the scene.

One of the two (a bachelor, I learnt) said that with Aids marring the beautiful picture that once gleamed in the light, marriage had become a no-tread zone to many a young man. He said that he would 'marry' for two or three years and, after getting a kid or two, tell the woman (read wife),
"Your time's up. Pack your bags and leave!" He would retain the children (with that, he would have accomplished his goal in life!).

They viewed sex as a way of letting off 'steam' and marriage as a 'factory' for making children; after that: to hell with it!

My Take
This is a dim view of reality. Sex and marriage are beautiful things created by God. Sex serves its purpose divinely in the context of marriage. And marriage is more than just 'where children are made' but rather where we learn to use our God-given talents to benefit each other (the married) in exciting ways that increase the gushes and torrents of love.

Still on the issue of marriage, sample what Bishop T.D. Jakes has to say to the married and the ones aspiring to be married one day.

What it means to be Married:

"To the one you are marrying you are saying: when my time comes to leave this world, when the chill of eternity blows away my birthdays and my future stands still in the night, it's your face I want to kiss goodbye. It's your hand I want to squeeze, as I slip from time to eternity. As the curtain closes on all I have attempted to do and be, I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered. Not what I looked like or how much money I made, or even how talented I was. I just want to look into the eyes of someone who loved me and see that I mattered."

This is quite a huge price tag attached to the marriage institution and certainly the missing piece in the jigsaw.

Spouses out there 'for better or for worse' please don't do this to your partner.


Taabu said...

Ritch was it a social or religious check? And did you say God created sex and marriage? Well with all due respect to religion I don't think so because the creator himself has no record of indulging, ama iko? That is not meant to invite kesha-type foams at the corner of the lips.

Kids are mere bioological by-products of emotional overindulgence. Sex is one thre-lettered word that is ABUSED and used in equal measure. Ever wondered why the X at the end of the word?

Being athletic around the waist may not only be bliss but THERAPAUTIC too. The young men may have been boeth right and wrong. Right because your get hormonally charged and re-refreshed duringa dn after the act but wrong because they have their priorities INVERTED. Aids is the poissoned chalice in the whole episode.

Anonymous said...

Contact Jeff Koinange - he is an 'expert' on this subject. And maybe then you find the connection between him and Koinange-Street being the center of prostitution in Nairobi. Got me?

Anonymous said...

Get thoroughly tested, you and your spouse, get married and stay married, that is the only sure way to beat HIV/AIDS. I have lost most of my relatives from this scourge!

Wanjiku Unlimited said...

Taabu no. There's no record of the creator indulging. But does that therefore mean that he did not create sex and marriage?

Anonymous said...

ritchie this was was nice-thank you for the words of wisdom.

fave said...

I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with sex. However, reckless endangerment of one's self due to unsafe sex is wrong.
We have to remove religion from a purely natural function. Plus, when it comes to sex there is no one size fits all. Every one has to find their balance, some need a lot some less but always remember to be ready to deal with the consequences of your behavior.
Marriage is a contract and Kenyans are not know to follow terms of any contract. So do not be surprised at cheating spouses.
Funny thing about HIV is that it is fully preventable. It is not like cancer, or a stroke etc. But as we say hormones are stronger than neurons

Taabu said...

Ciku I hear you but please inform me whether it is possible to create what you don't know yourself and neither tried? Just curious and NOT cheeky.

Fave did you say marriage is a contract? Well maybe elsewhere but on our shores where memoranda galore more in dishonour than intent. Marrriage may as well be legalized rape, ama?

Proud Kikuyu Woman said...

Taabu, your argument is flawed. What you're saying would apply to all of God's creation because surely nothing existed before Him. My opinion is yes, sexual pleasure was created by God, - to be enjoyed with responsibility.

Proud Kikuyu Woman said...

Hadn't even read your last part. You weird! Or too pessimistic.

Akala said...

No we don't get you anon 10.03. will Jeff Koinange never have a break? He blundered and he moved on. He's now a proud father. I'd advise you anon to move on too. Take a thorough look at yourself and decide whether you're qualified to throw the first stone. How can you spend so much time thinking about how someone else has his sex? Get a life!!

ritch said...

Hi Kumekuchans, some of you tend to think that I am preaching here. Far from that. The truth has to be told the way it should. Taabu, are you there?

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