Jacque's friends warned her about Jowie

 

It has come to light that several friends of Jackie Maribe expressed concerns about her relationship with Jowie Irungu. One of these friends, a close confidante and former Citizen TV news anchor Kurega Nara, reportedly warned Jackie about Jowie. This warning led to a heated confrontation between Kurega and Jowie, who was furious that someone he barely knew was spreading negative stories about him.

This situation highlights a common dilemma many people face—receiving warnings from friends about relationships. I can personally relate, having been in a similar situation years ago. A close friend once warned me about someone I was dating, and I reacted with anger, even cutting ties with them for months. In hindsight, my friend was absolutely right; the relationship ended disastrously.

This underscores an important lesson: when friends warn you about a relationship, they are often correct. While they may not always be right, emotions and infatuation often cloud judgment, making it difficult to see the truth.

Historically, it has been said that women possess the power to bring down even the strongest of men—not through physical strength but through influence. However, the Jackie Maribe case flips this narrative, reminding us that men, too, can wield charm in destructive ways. Men can manipulate and exploit women emotionally, leaving scars that may last a lifetime.

In today's world, the dynamics of gender roles are shifting. Men adopting habits traditionally associated with women—such as using lotions, going for manicures, or even wearing makeup—have blurred the lines. This modern reality introduces complexities in relationships, where some men exploit women in ways previously considered atypical.

The Maribe saga resonates with many women because it mirrors situations they have experienced. Although most cases don't end in extreme outcomes like murder, they often result in emotional turmoil or irreparable damage. Women find themselves trapped in cycles of pain that take years, if not lifetimes, to heal.

For women, understanding their instincts is key to avoiding these pitfalls. The reality is that women are often drawn to "bad boys" rather than "nice guys." This inclination has evolutionary roots. In ancient times, women were naturally attracted to strong, dominant men for survival. While society has evolved, these instincts persist, explaining why "bad boys" often attract women, despite the risks.

Even in the 1980s, Kenya’s infamous bank robbers like Wakinyonga had no shortage of admirers. These women weren’t reckless; they were acting on deep-seated instincts. Similarly, modern women influenced by soap operas and romanticized narratives often chase excitement, ignoring red flags.

For women seeking to protect themselves, self-awareness is a powerful tool. Understanding your instincts and resisting unhealthy attractions can be more effective than any defense mechanism. When you feel drawn to someone who seems "too exciting" but dangerous, trust your intuition and walk away.

So, my advice is simple: know yourself. Recognize your tendencies, and when faced with a "bad boy," resist the allure and walk—or run—away. Life is not a soap opera, and protecting yourself is far more important than chasing fleeting thrills.