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Monday, December 01, 2008

It Would Be Nice If Lucy Came Out And Said Jambo To Us

I miss Lucy.

No, I'm not crazy. It's just that when I look at Michelle Obama I sometimes wonder why Kenyans are okay with a situation where our first lady doesn't ever come out to say jambo to us. Wouldn't it be nice if she walked down the street every two or three months to tell us what's going on with her? I'd like to know that the nation's first lady is okay and that she's happy. Knowing that makes all of us feel good about the state of affairs in the State House, in Muthaiga and back in Nyeri.

Lucy, I hope to see you somewhere in Nairobi soon.

Having said that, I have to wonder why Kenyans, especially the press, never scrutinize the wives of the men who want to lead us. What, for instance, did we know about Mrs. Musyoka? And what did we know about Mrs. Ruto? Tell me what we knew about Mrs. Mudavadi? Granted we knew a lot about Lucy, but that was only because we'd come to fall in love with her dramatic ways in her husband's first term. By the time Kibaki was sworn in in that secretive ceremony at the lawns of the State House, we all knew exactly what we were getting. Another turbulent term. But Lucy has behaved herself. She's allowed the President and the Premier to grapple with the myriad problems facing this nation without distractions. So I think we need to clap for her.

In 2012, here is what I'll be looking for in a first lady. It's wise to throw this out there so we can start watching the wives of the men who want to lead us.

1. A photogenic woman. Once we elect a President, we are stuck with the man for years. At the very least, the woman he presents as the mother of the nation needs to be beautiful, and must look sweet in pictures. A tired, mean face is fodder for comedians and fireside prattles, but it eventually depresses the nation. So beauty is a critical factor.

2. A Godly Woman. I know somebody is getting ready to jump me for not placing this factor first. The reason is simple. When you meet somebody for the first time, what you instantly see is their looks. Matter of fact, most people judge us by their first impression of us. Given that state of affairs, a potential first lady must prove to us, after we've determined that she's cute, that she loves her God. If a first lady is prayerful, it's a good indicator that her husband is too.

3. A Simple Woman. Remember Imelda Marcos? Three hundred pairs of shoes! Remember Sarah Palin? U.S. $150,000 in stylish clothes and a hairdo. Talk of frugality. The point is...a woman who has the guts to dress like Cleopatra or Cindy Crawford at a time when most Kenyans are struggling is probably going to become a fashion statement in the State House. Is that what we want? The time to scrutinize their wardrobe is now.

4. A Single Wife. This is not something most women have control over, but as a nation we must insist that our presidents have one wife. I'm not saying this because of the Lucy-Mary wars. I'm just suggesting that as a Christian nation we need to be true to the biblical principle of one man one wife. In any case, there is no provision for a first and second lady in our constitution. A man with two wives must be disqualified. Period.

5. Well Educated. Having a ding dong as a first lady can be a traumatic experience. Whenever there are state visits, our Head of State is "required" to be accompanied by his wife. Now just imagine our ding dong first lady in Paris with Carla Bruni, or in the States with the stylish Michelle Obama, or in Uganda with the well traveled Janet Museveni. Get my point? We can't afford to embarrass Kenya, so let's avoid presidential candidates with wives who think South America is the bottom half of the United States.

I need not go on. Obviously there are other crucial factors to consider. Let's hear them from you.

In the mean time, I hope that when First Lady Lucy Kibaki steps out to greet the nation we will all accord her the respect and the adulation she deserves.

80 comments:

Anonymous said...

Samo Okello,

I thought you said you are happily married. what is all this nonsense you miss Lucy? Lucy is happily married to Emillio- keep out!!!

M-Pesa said...

"sometimes wonder why Kenyans are okay with a situation where our first lady doesn't ever come out to say jambo to us.."

What a load of tosh!

Well, the sun still shines and the birds still sing despite their absence.

Step out and tell us what?? How much their greedy scumbag husbands are fleecing our taxes? How much their husbands have stolen from taxpayers in fiddled mileage allowances? How much we are being conned in fake foreign trips

Well, the First Lady, just like her hubby, never seems to care anyway. The couple doesn't give a rat's ass what anyone thinks. Just look at her empty office which she has never stepped in this year despite the huge rent being dished from the taxpayer's kitty?!

Me thinks their absence makes the air smell sweeter free from their overpowering hypocrisy.

E-CHANGE said...

"Samo",
i don't know know whether or not its a good thing for Lucy to come out and say jambo to us....blessing in disguise or disguise in blessing?

"Samo" you "wonder why Kenyans, especially the press, never scrutinize the wives of the men who want to lead us"? do the press have the freedom and authority to do so in this country?

Look, our press is definitely diverse and vibrant, no to mention somewhat professional with an average level of quality, nothing to write home about

however there is no doubt press
freedom in kenya is stifled and the media cannot be said to be truly liberal and independent to be able to scrutinise the lives of the men who lead us, never mind the lives of the wives of the men who lead us

"Samo", I would say your priorities are in the wrong order because photogenic is not the number one quality to look out for in a first lady.

I know you are a happily married man with an IDEAL SPOUSE and many decades of matrimonial bliss to prove it. however, once again your obsession with superficial outer trapings is your downfall you are so ready to kiss the asphalt yet oblivious the ground is rushing to greet your face

First Lady should FIRST be 2, 3, 4 and then 1

M-Pesa said...

A very reliable source has informed me that mama Rucy is busy making billions. She's overseeing the expansion of Kibaki's main business empire as their Deacon's chain rolls out more branches in Kampala Rwanda and TZ to be the Marks and Spencer of the region. Apart from The fashion chain of Deacon's they are opening more branches of 4U2 shops and Angelo the shoe shop. Na nyinyi mnachapa siasa tu while mama Rucy makes mbesha!

Anonymous said...

Sam,
Thou shalt not covet another man's wife or look at another woman lustfully.

Phil said...

God forbid!Of course you are crazy if not a lunatic.

How can you EVER miss Lucy? I myself deeply regret the day I cast my vote in 2002 in favour of her husband. Someone who has brought untold suffering to Kenya. A liar.

And again Sam, what makes you think Kenyans cannot elected a woman president and in the process create a first-husband. Admittedly, the leading women politicians are husbandless; Karua, Ngilu, Ojiambo, et al. But this is not to say others who have husbands cannot show up.

Jimmy Osiemo said...

Sam
i totally support you.Lucy should NOT ONLY come out from her undisclosed location,but to tell us why the Tax payers are paying her a monthly salary which indeed went up sometime back.I think its Ksh500,000.Honestly,why should we pay her when even the constitution is silent on the first lady's office.

Sayra said...

Lol ... ha ha ha.

Alaaaa.

You are funny people.

Anonymous said...

Who in their right mind will miss ugly Lucy? me thinks she is locked up in mathare mental hospital.

Anonymous said...

Sam do want to be ambukizwa na wazimu wa Lucy, you can go to methare VIP wing you will meet her there, make sure she thus not mistake you for KTN journalist or the MC who miss read here name and got makovi ya kilo. If you see pass our Salams, tell her Emilio will be joining here and now jaluo is not only in the house but in the white house, vote change

Kwale said...

Sam,

Here we meet again on this subject of ….
You said …. "What, for instance, did we know about Mrs. Musyoka? And what did we know about Mrs. Ruto? Tell me what we knew about Mrs. Mudavadi?..."

I think you're expecting too much here. Do you know African men are embarrassed to show off their wives in public? (I guess for fear of seen by their mistress) Wives are for bearing children and the up-keeping of the "family". And any suggestions of Kibaki canoodling and kissing his wife in public should be out of the window. Touchy-feely in public is not African brother - unlike Obama who proudly snog his wife in public and she is not that particularly pretty but yet he is very proud of her.

If you're a man and struggling with how to love a woman, here is a tribute song on how to love a woman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hq2KgzKETBw&feature=related

Shiko-Msa said...

Phil don't worry about first husbands. We shall have first boyfriends when the day comes for these husbandless ladies to step into power.

Kwale said...

Oops, i meant how to love YOUR woman.

Anonymous said...

Phil

You said ''I myself deeply regret the day I cast my vote in 2002 in favour of her husband. Someone who has brought untold suffering to Kenya. A liar.''
Kibaki has not changet a bit since the pre-colonial. You voted for him inspite of his bad hadits since RAO said so just the same way people rushed to mutilate and amputate their penises since RAO said so fools get what they deserve

Taabu said...

Kwale,
Tell them. They need the basics of IDEALMARIAGE 101. And while at it did Sam say PHOTOGENIC? Well do ORGRES mutate infornt of cameras? And two orgres can produce super mongoloids as we know, ama?

Kwale you must remind them about NOT-SO-PRETTY Michelle. You must know better, tell them about Brazil and Greek beauties.

And Sam has the cheek to declare monogamy as presidential requirement. What do you think Mary knows that we don't given the otherwise scare crows on TV?

Marriage means many things to many people Kwale. It may be EMOTIONAL SLAVERY or simply CONTRACT for MUTUAL RAPE (no prosecution). Take your pick.

@Ciku,
Boy ama MAN friends? Mhhhhhhh!!!!

Sam Okello said...

I was yanked out of my desk and I can see that I've missed out on a nice debate. First of all, Jimmy, nice to hear from you. Been a while. As usual tell the guys i'm doing just fine. Now to anon 1:22, of course I'm happily married. How do you interprete my words to mean I miss Lucy in that sence? Something has to be wrong with your thinking.

Sam Okello said...

M-pesa,

The sun still shines, thank God, but it would shine brighter with Lucy in our midst.

Sam Okello said...

E-change,

The press in Kenya is super vibrant. If these guys went out there to dig out the life of these first-lady to be, they'd find out a lot of info that we can go on in choosing a first lady. Let the press roll!

Sam Okello said...

Dissecting the word-DINYA!

1. The past tense of this verb would be...
a) nilidinya ..........contentment
b) nilimdinya.........gossip
c) niliwadinya........pride
d) nilijidinya........honesty
e) nilidinywa.........self-esteem issues

2. Future tense...
a) nitadinya..........aimless ambition
b) nitamdinya.........hope

3. Just did it (immediate past)
a) nimedinya.........a mixture of 1(a) and 1(b)
b) nimedinywa........self esteem issue revisited.

4. A slight change in intonation introduces an element of doubt
a) amedinya?.........player hating
b) atamdinya?........ player hating with a little fear
c)watamdinya?........implication of sluttiness

5. The ngeli thus, has to be m-wa....
a) mdinyaji/ wadinyaji....what we all aspire to be
b) aliyedinywa/ waliodinywa...the freaks amongst us.

Sam Okello said...

Phil,

I want to see the first lady. We don't call her the mother of the nation for nothing, man. Mama shouldn't be gone from the watoto too long. And by the way, a first man/husband is three to five decades away. Depending on how old you're, you may never see one in Kenya. Our grandchildren might be lucky.

Sam Okello said...

Sayra,

Funny? I know that's why you like us!

Sam Okello said...

To all who think L is in M,

Whoever thinks Lucy is in Mathare is grossly mistaken. The first lady is busy working for us. I know this for a fact. We should all be respectful of her position even if we may disagree with her ways.

Sam Okello said...

Kwale,

Hope you've had a god day. Men who love their wives and are not afraid to say it are my heroes. It's a shame that some men still see women as the child-bearer and nothing else. Luckily I sense a mind-shift in Kenya. I see women being more assertive and taking their place in society. The unfortunate thing is that with the empowerment, there is a corresponding uptick in separetions and divorces. I wish we can learn to strike a balance, where men don't feel threatened by the growing power of the woman, and the woman remains respectful of a man's place in the home.

Sam Okello said...

Sam Okello5:41,

Thanks for the lesson. I hope lesson two will be tomorrow. Don't you think if I take away just the word "Dinya" I'll have done well for tonight? But I'll have to ask Phil what it means before I go around uttering a word that might embarrass me. You see, teacher, it takes a pupil five to six lessons before he/she trusts the teacher. Or should I now call you Mwalimu?

By the way, we have a new student. His name is Vikii. Last night's lesson sent him to bed with a smile. I guess Vikii will be one of your best students.

How do you say good night in Swahili, Mwalimu?

Kwale said...

Taabu,
Will stop twisting my words! I was trying to encourage men to feel proud of their wives regardless of how they look. Have you heard the saying "beauty is in the eyes of beholder?"

Of course Michelle Obama is beautiful. She possesses the kind of beauty that you don't see very often. A powerful,loving, strong willed, self-assured woman. And she got nice butts too. Not big but nicely rounded.

Sam Okello said...

Taabu,

Where did you see the Brazillian and Greek beauties? I always suspected you've traveled far and wide, my friend. But I know you were not with Kwale out there. Now tell us where you saw them.

Toboa!

Anonymous said...

Pretty Lucy wemiz u

E-CHANGE said...

a better title for this post is
brazil and greek beauties - come out and say jambo to us

Sayra said...

"2. Future tense...
a) nitadinya..........aimless ambition
b) nitamdinya.........hope"


Aiii yawa ... loll

Sam Okello said...

Sayra,

Are you disagreeing with Mwalimu?

E-change,

Why in the world would we want to see those Brazillian and Greek beauties when God has blest Kenya with such pretty women?

Anonymous said...

Lucy Kibaki is hot. Pure & simple.

E-CHANGE said...

"Samo",
well, apparently we "African men" are embarrassed off our "pretty women in Kenya" in public. We fear canoodling and kissing them in public even with their not big nicely rounded butts

"Samo" turn the other cheek for lessons in HYPOCRISY 101-just ask Kwale. Look out the window and see the same "African men" canoodling and kissing greek and brazillian beauties with their big rounded butts in public&broad daylight in full view of StateHouse. Now picture Lucy coming out and saying jambo to the two of you.

Joe said...

Sam,

Your clone is hilarious! The freak amongst us!

Sam Okello said...

Joe,

Be careful, man, we might make you the third student.

Sayra said...

Sam,

I like you as a kenyan brother even when some of ur articles make me wonder what part of the world you coming from ... and what you trying to tell us. Most of the times you off ... or you just trying make the world go away (u know that country song by roger whitaker?) by trying to make us feel better and sometimes its a good thing.

On mwalimu- was just thinking that we should get rid of "aimless ambition" and embrace "hope".

Sam Okello said...

E-change,

I've seen many Kenyan men who treat their wives very well. A time is coming when Kenya will be a rolling plain of marital romance and eternal bliss.

That's the prophecy according to Okello and Kwale!

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Joe said...

Sayra,

Now, is that "hope" we can believe in?

Sam Okello said...

Sayra,

That's the spirit. I'll just take the part that you like me as a Kenyan brother. Makes my day. Anyhow, many times I see things a little differently than my blogging friends Taabu and company, but I love these guys. They all make me learn new things ans sometimes make me see things differently.

As for you Sayra, it's always nice to have a voice of reason when we are screaming at each other. But I know you love some of the screams. They are what make KK the leader in this business.

Sayra said...

Joe,

Don't take it literally.

According to Sam's clone we dissecting the word. You can see where "aimless ambition" has brought us. We have been aimlessly saying that we will do and we have done nothing. How about "hope" - this a decided mind that has decided to act ... not just talk.

Sayra said...

Sam,

Fair enough.

Pliz enlighten me on this:- "I see women being more assertive and taking their place in society. The unfortunate thing is that with the empowerment, there is a corresponding uptick in separetions and divorces. I wish we can learn to strike a balance, where men don't feel threatened by the growing power of the woman, and the woman remains respectful of a man's place in the home."

Joe said...

Aaaah, Ok. So we take away their "contentment". Works for me!

Sam Okello said...

Sayra,

That statement is my observation of Kenya. Do you ever read Woman's Instinct in the Saturday Standard? I love reading it. Whenever i read it, though, I see stories that break my heart. The overall theme in the stories is this...women are getting economically empowered, men are struggling to figure out how to deal with this new situation. The result is conflict in relationships.

So what I'm saying is that I dream of a time when men will learn to appreciate the brainy, go-getter woman, and the women will learn to see in their husbands the head of the household...even if the woman makes three times the man's salary.

That's my dream!

Sam Okello said...

Mwandishi Sam Okello,

You are not the real teacher. We will stick with the Mwalimu of "Dinya". We care for teachers with a sense of decorum.

Anonymous said...

We dont want to see Lucy and we dont want to pay her 500k a month while we never elected her.

Apotee na aturudishie pesa yetu na iwe backdated to since she begun being paid. Her office is unconstitutional and all payments made to her are ILLEGAL. The media should take this up while continuing to pile pressure on the MPs to pay tax. No wasting money on useless millionaires while hard working tax paying kenyans are starving.

Kwale said...

I have a better live version;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWKlJAXuDQM

enjoy!

Sayra said...

Yah Joe.

You see that is future tense. So when we will be like done after years of working ... looking back (since it will be past tense) will talk of "contentment"

Sam,
I have heard and read so much of this subject. All i can say at the moment is that it's a boring subject full of conflicting info. But I get what you are trying to say.

Taabu said...

@SM Clone,
You have extended the handsake past the elbow. Either you measure up or you are STOPPED DEAD on your neferous track of juvenile obscenities. STOP IT NOW.

Anonymous said...

Which bible do you read Okello? , no where in the bible does it say one man one wife .

Anonymous said...

BULLSHIT ARTICLE!!

Vikii said...

Maigodii!

Anonymous said...

Anon 1.45pm,

Sam is a typical Christian: they dont read the bible. Ati "bibilical principle of one wife"! Sam, in which book of the bible is this principle to be found? You should have said "the European custom of one wife".

Anonymous said...

And what if the next President is a woman? What qualities should we be looking for in the First Man?

Sam Okello said...

If the president is a woman, just apply these principles to the gentleman.

Sam Okello said...

anon 2:58,

How about Adam and Eve? That's the very first instance of marriage as we find it in the Bible. Later on there are cases of polygamy, but just read the story of Sarah and Haggar...Abraham's wives...to see for yourself why God created monogamy, not polygamy.

Anonymous said...

Sam,
i am addicted to sex. what advice can you offer me. i feel sex all the times.

b-carotene said...

Kwale: Wow! Will do. Thanks.
Maigodii :)).

Anonymous said...

Sam,

You dont know crap about the bible. Adam and Eve were supposed to stay naked, childless and eat fruits. That was the garden of Eden. If you do not uphold the standards of the garden of Eden, you cant say man is to have only one wife.

God made the twelve tribes of Israel from the polygamous Jacob: twelve sons from four wives. This is real big. Many of the wives of David and Solomon were chosen by God.

In the NT Paul only requires one wife for bishops and deacons (1Timothy). Jesus in fact endorsed polygamy. See the parable of 10 brides and one groom.

Taabu said...

The Bible is a very complicated boo that is often abused than used by serial plagiarists. It demands some foundation on theology and philosophy without which most foam at te mouth regurgitating the high-school sermons into old age.

A look at some of the cheap sermons here confirms that the tele-evangelists are in good company and Prof/Dr Ev Teresia and Wanjiru have real competitors. Let us not mistake Western cultures as shoved by missionaries with biblical teaching. Religion is complex and cheapening it is sacreligious.

Sam Okello said...

That anon who feels sex all the time needs to see a sex therapist. Tells us where you are so we can recommend some good ones in your area.

Sam Okello said...

Taabu,

You are right about the Bible. After years of studying it, I'm as stupefied by it as the next man/woman. I'm always aware of my limitations in understanding it when I quote it, but I still do and pray that whenever I quote it in a wrong sense, the Lord may have mercy on me.

Still, on the matter of mono/poligamy, the Good Book is explicit on God's prefered situation. Is God's choice of lifestyle the same as Western culture?

Where is Sayra when I need her?

Sam Okello said...

To the Real Mwalimu,

Time for lesson II

Anonymous said...

Sam,
anon 4.45, do i have to pay to see the therapist? iam a very poor person but iam serious, i feel sex all the times, maybe is normal i don't know.

Sam Okello said...

anan 4:45,

I don't want you to think I'm blowing you off, but you must understand that a situation like that needs professional attention. A professional sex therapist will put you through a structured treatment regimen that will gradually reduce your need for sexual release.

Find one and tell me what it costs. When you do I'll give you a private e-mail to contact me.

Is that okay?

Anonymous said...

Kuna mwanamke ambae nimeanza mahusiano ya kingono nae jana usiku. Tulikwenda gesti kutenda hilo jambo. Sasa kinachoshangaza ni kwamba kabla ya bao la kwanza uume wangu ulianza kujihisi kama vile umechubuka. Demu mwenyewe alikua mkavu kidogo ukeni, nikajaribu kutemea mate ili alainike lakini baada ya mda mfupi ukavu unarudi pale pale na mimi ndio nazidi kuchubuka. Baada ya bao la kwanza, nilikuta tayari kaloa nilipo ingia mara ya pili. Lakini haikudumu. Ni kama vile huyu demu hana unyevu wake mwenyewe wakati anapojamiiana na mwanaume. Sasa leo, maumivu ya mchubuka yametulia, kwahiyo nahisi sii tatizo la kudumu na wala sii gonjwa la zinaa. Ni mara ya kwanza mimi kufanya ngono na mwanamke ambae haloi ukeni ipasavyo. Je, unaweza kunishauri vipi kuhusu hili tatizo na jinsi ya kulitatua?

Nami nipewe sex therapist pia?

Anonymous said...

anon 7:19,

Translate that for Sam. The man is poor in lugha ya mama.

Anonymous said...

Im disappointed with what Kumekucha has become, with Sam comin gand trying to impose a celebrity culture on us that is totally absurd if not irrelevant. I don't think we have to see Lucy for us to feel comfortable and at peace with ourselves. Posts like this are turning Kumekucha to something I hoped it wouldn't become, one of those 'contentless' magazines you see on supermarket shelves telling you how to properly apply mascara...please lets discuss issues of substance..

Thankyou!

Anonymous said...

Is this guy saying sex is not substance? These are the kinds of men who see women an objects.

Anonymous said...

Anon 8.10,
Kumekucha is a diverse blog with different topics and different views. Whining and complaining will not help. you either get in and embrace the diversity or remain disappointed. All issues have substance.
Thank you!

Sam Okello said...

anon 8:10

KK has become an authoritative blog precisely because we discuss issues. Are you suggesting that it's okay for our first lady to remain hidden? I think it would be nice if we saw her once in a while. You call the celebrity? I fear that an attitude like that is what makes us vote for men/women only to discover when they are in the State House that...because of the difficult wife or husband, they shouldn't have been elected.

Lighten up, my friend.

Anonymous said...

an authoritative blog on?
sex therapy?

Dr Murinho said...

Anon 8.34,

Sex therapists are trained counsellors or healthcare professionals who have done extra training in the physical and emotional issues linked to sex. So what is your problem with that?

Sam Okello said...

Hello Dr. Murinho,

At the risk of being accused of lowering the quality of discussion here by the anon, I have to ask what psychological or formative issues would make someone become a sex addict. Ever dealt with issues of this nature?

we~a~do said...

4. A Single Wife. This is not something most women have control over, but as a nation we must insist that our presidents have one wife. I'm not saying this because of the Lucy-Mary wars. I'm just suggesting that as a Christian nation we need to be true to the biblical principle of one man one wife. In any case, there is no provision for a first and second lady in our constitution. A man with two wives must be disqualified. Period.
-----------------

DEPENDS on what part of the Bible you read. Last time I checked, nowhere in the Bible is it stated that Christians must be monogamous.

Anonymous said...

shut up murinho--unafaa utimuliwe kutoka hapa pia. you are one of those keeping this blog in the gutter.

Dr Murinho said...

Sam Okello,

First be informed, majority of people who read this blog are uptight people looking to read about Raila or Kibaki only, or how election was stolen. They want to read how bad Kibaki is leading the country or how well Raila is doing. Anything else is very unwelcomed. It is sadly a very depressed culture. But you have to understand many of these people do not know much of the outside world – either by refusal, denial or distortion of truth. Also some of these people have never lived anywhere outside Kenya so they don't understand these things.

That said. Now in Psychology there are about are 11 diagnosis of sex disorder which have been recorded up to date. Sexual addictions are among the least talked about and probably the least understood of all addictions. Sexual addiction has been around apparently going back as far as we have recorded history. The lack of knowledge and understanding about it comes from our society's unwillingness to take an honest and open look at sexuality. However, it has only been in the last two or three decades that a clearer understanding of it is being reached. Sexual addiction is rapidly becoming recognized as a major social problem with similarities more well-known to alcohol and drug addiction or compulsive gambling.

Sexual addiction is progressive and it rarely gets better. Over time it gets more frequent and more extreme. At other times when it seems under control, the addict is merely engaging in one of the common traits of the disease process in which he switches from sexual release to the control of it. The control phase inevitably breaks down over time and the addict is back in the behavior again, despite his promise to himself or others never to do it again. When the ecstasy of the release is spent, the addict will feel remorse at his failure and will switch back to another "white knuckle" period of abstaining from the behavior until his resolve weakens again. Besides being addicted to sexual behavior, some sex addicts are also sexually codependent. These are the addicts who don't really enjoy sex, but are involved in the sexual acts just to please their partners. They fear abandonment, so they don't tell their partners that they are not enjoying the sex. Without help, this is the way the sexually addictive person lives life. Many addicts seek help but discontinue it or find it not helpful. They have a growing appreciation of the reality of the problem but tend to counter this realization by minimizing the problem or thinking they can handle it by themselves. Most fear that letting go of the addiction would mean giving up sex completely.

There is help should anyone require it.

Dr Murinho
Consultant Psychologist

Anonymous said...

help anon@7:19 as well. what discrimination, or dont you understand kiswahili?

Anonymous said...

The problem that most people have is the issue of erection and ejacuration.
How can this be help?
In kenya, there was a big erection just one year ago. After the general erection, kenyans fought one another, especially those who did not erect their people.
Kibaki called himself the president erect after the erection,
Raila called himself the president chosen in the erection.
Major confusion arose, it rose so high that the erection was nothing.
Koffi Annan came to solve this erection because white people were wondering how african have problems with big general erections.

How can we stop these erections? Can Kibaki, at 76 years of age, still be eligible for erection? Is that why we are cutting the age for president so that a young president can survive a big african general erection?

Sam Okello, help us because you know more about this erections having observed the president erect obama in chicago as the americans experienced their erection.

Sam Okello said...

Wow, thank you, Dr. Murinho. I've always wondered about this condition myself. I hope the lesson you've given freely on this matter will help the anon who asked about this issue understand better what he/she is dealing with. This is why I suggested professional help.

Thank you, Doc.

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